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Retirement? Another viewpoint ....

I'd like to thank Professor David Demko for the following article.  I'm sure he wouldn't mind me passing it onto those at that certain point in their life.  It's a fascinating and alternative look at something often taken for granted.

Here's the best retirement advice you'll ever get ... DON'T DO IT. Forget retirement. There is no such thing. Retirement is just a convenient invention created years ago as an avenue to clear the work place for new blood. Over the years, entire industries became beneficiaries of this new concept called "retirement". Ironically, it seems that the last person to benefit from retirement is the retiree. It's time to start traveling in the right lane of your road to retirement. 

So how did the Captains of Industry get mature workers to go along with the idea of retirement? Easy. Tell the workers that retirement is a reward, the best part of life. But was that true? As far back as twenty years ago, the American Medical Association called enforced idlement, like retirement, a health hazard. In fact, even before the AMA proclamation, studies by the National Institute of Mental Health suggested that the transition to retirement was so stressful that the average life expectancy of a white collar male at age 65 was only 36-40 months.

So why does the retirement myth persist? Well, there's too much at stake for too many special interests. You might even say that retirement was created for everyone's benefit but the retiree. Sure, you might end up benefiting from retirement, you might even enjoy it. But that's incidental. Let's take a look at the intended beneficiaries of your retirement.

Corporate America wanted "new blood" to strengthen the work force. "New blood" is code for "replace experienced personnel with younger people who will work cheap". Any how, the corporate thirst for new blood set off early retirement trends that continue unabated to this very day. Interestingly, industry's trend of pushing mature talent out the door has coincided with the downward spiral of America's competitiveness in the global marketplace.

Another benefactor of your retirement is the nation's huge health care industry that, ironically, prospers only when you're sick. Where's the incentive to keep you healthy, active and enjoying your retirement? If you're lucky enough to be healthy, then there's the "well-you-never-really-know" insurance industry trying to capitalize on your anxieties about life's uncertainties.

Another benefactor of your retirement is the financial planning industry that distracts you from pondering whether or not retirement makes any sense at all, because you're too darn busy planning to be financially secure in retirement. Never mind that you just might be financially secure, yet emotionally miserable, if you stopped working. Everyone seems to be having a great time living off your decision to retire. Everyone that is, except you.

If you want to get retirement right, you have to understand that almost everyone's interests are served by your retirement, except your own interests. Once you figure that out, you're half way home. Enjoying an active and productive retirement won't just happen. Retirement is more a state of mind than a stage of life. It's what you make of it, it's what you discover is in it for you. Retirement is doing what you want to do, even if it's work that you want to do. Here's a few rules to keep in mind if you want to make retirement work for you.

DAVE'S RULE #1
Ask yourself why you want to retire. Don't do it just because you hate the daily drill of your job. If you don't like your job, you should change jobs, not retire. I criss-cross the country speaking to thousands of retirees, and this is what their spouses would like their husbands to do ... GET A LIFE. Women say they are sick and tired of the "stopped living, stay-at-home, sitting-in-a-chair-waiting-to-die husband". So plan on retiring from one thing, like your job, to something else that's equally interesting. Just don't retire from life.

DAVE'S RULE #2
Find out what makes you tick. What makes your life inspiring, worth living? Ever wonder why a lot of self-employed people never retire? What for? Their retirement reward is to be able to continue to pursue their lifelong passion whether it's a hardware store, law practice, or photography.

DAVE'S RULE #3
Force yourself to set lifestyle goals. Since you can look forward to another two decades, plan to make it as interesting as possible. For example, make a list of ten things you'd love to do if you could afford to retire. Then, write down how much time you're spending on these activities now. Most likely, you have a retirement fantasy that includes a lot of exciting pursuits. But if you're not pursuing any of these activities now, what makes you think your preferences will change in retirement? People find time for the things they love to do. In a sense, successful retirement results from people who call their own bluff. All their worklife they talk about all the exciting activities they'll be engaged in. Then comes retirement and they don't pursue any activity. Don't wait for later to discover that your retirement dream is all show and no go.

DAVE'S RULE #4
Try to see through the dollar signs. A common mistake is to concentrate only on the financial aspects of retirement. Sure you need to have a nest egg. But what's the point if you aren't healthy enough, or don't live long enough to enjoy the opportunities afforded by your retirement income? One of the greatest ironies of so-called retirement planning is that most people spend fifty years building a nest egg, but only fifty minutes making plans to stay healthy enough to enjoy it.

If retirement exists at all, it exists as a state of mind. The ultimate in retirement probably means being able to live life on your own terms, doing what feels right for you. Continuing to work. Changing careers. Stopping work altogether. Pursuing a college degree. Or one of a thousand other pursuits. Today's retirees have based the retirement decision on economic feasibility without much thought to the personal consequences. Baby boomers may be a different story. Research suggests that boomers won't be financially capable of retiring in the same style as their parents.

That's the bad news. The good news is that the boomers will have to do a lot more soul-searching about the retirement decision. As a result, they may not retire at all. Call it necessity, or preference. Retirement, as we know it today, may never be the same. And quite likely just might disappear from the American experience.
Dr. David J. Demko is a doctoral graduate of the University of Michigan with certifications in Gerontology (UM), Geriatric Assessment (USF), and Retirement Planning Leadership (AARP). 

Males suffer most?

They may look stronger and braver than women, but men suffer the most when a relationship is rocky, a new study has claimed.

Researchers at the Wake Forest University in the US found that the pangs of broken-heart have a greater effect on the mental health of young men than the fair sex -- contradicting the stereotypical image of stoic men who are unaffected by what happens in their relationships.

While women are more likely to display their depression to friends, men are more likely to store up their feelings - with negative health effects including making them more likely to drink alcohol, the researchers found.

Prof Robin Simon, who led the study, admitted she was shocked that the results overturned the widespread assumption that women are more vulnerable to the emotional rollercoaster of relationships.

"Surprisingly, we found young men are more reactive to the quality of ongoing relationships," she was quoted as saying by the Daily Mail .

That means men's mental health is more affected by the harmful stress of a rocky relationship, she said.

The study, based on a survey of 1,000 unmarried 18- to 23-year-olds in Florida, also found that men get greater motional benefits from the positive aspects of an ongoing romance.

The findings could be down to the fact that young men often have few people in whom they confide -- apart from their romantic partner. Whereas women are more likely to have close relationships with family and friends, she said.

Strain in a relationship could also be linked to poor emotional well-being because it threatens young men's sense of identity and feelings of self-worth.

Another factor, Prof Simon said, was that men and women express emotional distress in different ways.

"Women express emotional distress with depression, while men express emotional distress with substance problems."

The researchers also found that while young men are more affected by the quality of a current relationship, young women are more emotionally affected by whether or not they are in a relationship.

The study, which was part of a long-term probe into mental health and the transition to adulthood, appeared in the Journal of Health and Social Behaviour .

Weighty Worries

Well, it's now scientific fact. Stress can make us develop weight issues. Many people carrying those extra kilos are doing so because of the body's response to external stress. It's very obvious then that by lowering our stress levels, we not only become a calmer person, we can also lose weight. Sounds good to me. Hypnotherapy is a wonderfully soothing and efficient way of reaching that aim.

Here is an article by Dr William C, Shiel which sums up the issue quite neatly:

Most people admit that when they're under stress, healthy eating habits can be difficult to maintain. Whether eating to fill an emotional need or grabbing fast food simply because there's no time to prepare something healthy, a stressed-out lifestyle is rarely a healthy one. But weight gain when under stress may also be at least partly due to the body's system of hormonal checks and balances, which can actually promote weight gain when you're stressed out, according to some researchers.
Cortisol is a critical hormone with many actions in the body. Normally, cortisol is secreted by the adrenal glands in a pattern called a diurnal variation, meaning that levels of cortisol in the bloodstream vary depending upon the time of day (normally, cortisol levels are highest in the early morning and lowest around midnight). Cortisol is important for the maintenance of blood pressure as well as the provision of energy for the body. Cortisol stimulates fat and carbohydrate metabolism for fast energy, and stimulates insulin release and maintenance of blood sugar levels. The end result of these actions can be an increase in appetite.
Cortisol has been termed the "stress hormone" because excess cortisol is secreted during times of physical or psychological stress, and the normal pattern of cortisol secretion (with levels highest in the early morning and lowest at night) can be altered. This disruption of cortisol secretion may not only promote weight gain, but it can also affect where you put on the weight. Some studies have shown that stress and elevated cortisol tend to cause fat deposition in the abdominal area rather than in the hips. This fat deposition has been referred to as "toxic fat" since abdominal fat deposition is strongly correlated with the development of cardiovascular disease including heart attacks and strokes.
Stress is certainly not the only reason having for abnormal levels of cortisol. A number of diseases and conditions can result in abnormal levels of cortisol in the bloodstream. Cushing's Syndrome is a term used by doctors to describe a condition in which various medical problems result in very high levels of cortisol, leading to changes in the body's appearance and function.
Weight gain or loss is dependent on a number of factors including resting metabolic rate, food intake, amount of exercise, and even the types of food consumed and the times of day food is consumed. Genetic factors also likely influence our metabolism and may explain some people's tendency to gain or lose weight more rapidly than others.
Whether or not a particular individual's stress levels will result in high cortisol levels and weight gain is not readily predictable. The amount of cortisol secreted in response to stress can vary among individuals, with some persons being innately more "reactive" to stressful events. Studies of women who tended to react to stress with high levels of cortisol secretion have shown that these women also tended to eat more when under stress than women who secreted less cortisol. Another study demonstrated that women who stored their excess fat in the abdominal area had higher cortisol levels and reported more lifestyle stress than women who stored fat primarily in the hips.
The diet industry has attempted to capitalize on findings from these studies by promoting dietary supplements claiming to lower cortisol and enhance weight loss. No independent studies published in respected, peer-reviewed medical journals have shown that these supplements have any value in cortisol reduction or weight loss. In fact, exercise is the best method for lowering cortisol levels that have risen in response to stress and has the added benefit of burning calories to stimulate weight loss.

2013

Here's a very quick one indeed.  I'd like to wish each and every one of you a very safe, very healthy and happy coming twelve months.

I hope that 2013 is that which you would wish it to be, and more.

My best wishes to you all.

Thanks Milton ........

Milton Erickson's Wisdom ....

Erickson and the girl with large feet .....

For many decades, people have been fascinated by the therapeutic techniques of Milton Erickson, and rightly so, he was indeed a genius.

He manipulated words and phrases in such as way as to bring about change in the listener; whether they were in a formal hypnotic state, or not.  He is known as known as one of the most creative and interesting therapists of all time.

Here's a short audio clip highlighting one of those techniques.

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